When my two girls were old enough I drove them down to spend a week with my Mom at the coast. When we arrived, the children immediately wanted to go to the beach. I was tired and preoccupied with business matters, but I agreed and off we went.
When we arrived I noticed that the beach had been dramatically changed by a spring tide and now sloped steeply down toward the sea. My mind was so full of other things it didn’t occur to me that the only wave breaking on this now steep slope was rather dangerous. The truth is that my body was at the beach, but my mind was elsewhere. I was not present! This was soon to change…
As I went into the water, I was thrown down into the churning sand, spluttering and gasping for air – I was completely powerless. I had one thought only – keeping alive, surviving the huge wave descending on me. As the water subsided and gave me a chance to rise to my feet I experienced the most unexpected exhilaration and joy. The wave had become my NOW. My children, stunned by the sight of their Mom disappearing under a wall of water were relieved to see me stand up. They were surprised as I let out a shout (of joy) and charged up the beach toward them! I was changed. I was there! I had experienced a total experience of the NOW, and it was amazing.
It was a brilliant gift, for I had experienced that moment with all my being. Every sense, every muscle, every thought had focused on that moment. In doing that I experienced a remarkable sense of aliveness. And so my one-minute swim became a lifetime’s lesson. Jerry Jampolsky says this about being in the NOW:
‘It is very easy to lapse into the past or build up anxiety about the future. When we do this, we are often not peaceful. When we recognize this, we can focus our attention back to the present where it is possible to experience peace. If we stay in the present, we are best able to deal with anything that comes our way. If we are someplace else, it is not possible to make decisions. In essence, NOW is the only time there is. It is in the NOW that the love energy comes through us. It is in the NOW that we are not judgmental and we can see clearly what is going on….We cannot control the external world. We will never be peaceful if we try to do so.’
We really start LIVING when we get into the present, the now, fear and all! (Notice the word fear here.) Fear of experiencing fear causes us to suppress fear in our daily life. That action not only steals energy and shuts us down, but separates us from ourselves.
‘When negative feelings are suppressed positive feelings become suppressed as well, and love dies.’ John Gray
The present moment is like a river of feelings and experiences, moving, changing and passing. If we can be brave enough to feel all this flow, we come alive. The present moment and flow are actually one and the same thing. Right action comes from the flow of life.
You are being led to your perfect life through the subtle feelings and urges, sometimes called ‘good’ sometimes ‘bad’, flowing into your body-mind all the time. These feelings and impulses show you, or invite you, or urge you to do something. It is that ‘something’ that is the right action, and it can only be experienced when you are in the now.
Your perfect life, the perfect decisions, the perfect experience is emerging moment by moment.
All you need to know is contained in this moment. To deal with ANYTHING, become fully present, and then choose.